I believe events in pregnancy, birth, and postpartum affect us for a lifetime. We are all deeply imprinted by events in the fetal period, birth process, and first years of life.
Birth works in a myriad of ways. Women know what they need and will express this when there is trust between mother and midwife, especially when the midwife encourages her to seek her own truth. Babies and mamas work together to bring forth new life and I have seen this dance work very well hundreds of times. Yes, sometimes they need some help and an attentive provider knows when to step in and when to remain hands off.
Science has now shown us data that supports what midwives have always known; when a woman and her family are supported emotionally, mentally and physically, the immediate and long-term outcome is healthier, more peaceful, and leads us to a happier life. This leads to a more peaceful society. Out-of-hospital birth is more economically viable, in the short and long term for society as well.
When we are born by a non-violent and undisturbed process of birth, we begin life fresh, within unconditional loving arms. We are imprinted with a lifelong sense of peace and fulfillment. These first hours are vitally important for the bonding process, so that our relationships will reflect love and peace, and allow us to heal from previous traumas as a society. If trauma does occur, we can certainly address these issues in a way that allows healing. Unconditional love can come through in all situations and often is the tie that binds us to our sanity when life seems out of control.
It was not until I met a midwife who I thought would surely change the world and I began to follow the education of her wisdom and many senior midwives that I realized midwifery is the future, supporting the family. Families need support. Support is not about changing people, it is about seeing and meeting them, in their life and helping them grow while maintaining safety, vigilance, and prosperity.